The querent only put this in her email “My and my partner’s compatibility”, nothing else. Yikes! Sometimes though we have only this little to go on. All one can do is read the symbols, so here it is.
My astrology teacher was fond of saying “We draw people to us for our own soul growth.” Your chart and that of your partner’s illustrates this point well.
I don’t think you’ve could have found a more perfect person to help you work on the rough edges of your soul. So many of your partner’s planets fall on top of yours that I am sure that for both of you the experience of your relationship is that it is hard to tell where one person ends and the other person begins. This is just the sort of experience that a Moon in Scorpio person, like your partner, craves.
To add another layer to this complex relationship, both of you are very psychic whether you realize it or not. For you this comes from your twelfth house Moon in the water sign Cancer. For your partner, it is the Scorpio Moon, of all things, in challenge aspect to Pluto. Both of you have an inner radar that spends a considerable amount of time scoping out the motives of the other person. The trouble is, for both of you, you are looking right into a mirror!
So what is the problem here? We’ve got two things going on. The first is your Mars, the planet of your survival instincts at the top of your chart. It is in the watery, emotional, chameleon-like sign of Pisces, and Mars hates to be in Pisces. People can’t figure out your motives, think you are up to something sneaky, (whether you are or not), and don’t think your actions matches your words. You don’t stand up for yourself well, and when you do take a stand, it is in such a confused, disjointed way, that other people hardly know what you are talking about. Oh, they know you are upset; you communicate your distress well enough, but the cause of it, that is another matter. It does not help that your moon is in the twelfth house, the place where we conceal ourselves. Since Cancer is about protection, you protect yourself by not sharing what you feel. If you are honest with yourself you will admit that you do not communicate your emotional needs well.
Your partner’s issues are about control. With that Moon square Pluto, this is a person who needs to control the emotional content of the relationship. In extreme cases, it is about control of another person and this is where this can get difficult. Understand that for the Moon in Scorpio person, the world is not the solid and sure place that other people perceive it be. They have a sense that reality is much different than their perceptions, and they are always reaching to figure out that reality. If your partner is constantly questions your motives and your actions, it is because of the interaction of the dynamics of your Mars and your partner’s Moon. In other words, your partner probes and questions and you withdraw, making your partner probe and question some more.
There is so much more to this, that a few paragraphs in a column hardly do it justice. My advice to you is this: get thee both to a couple’s counselor. Both of you need to learn how to make this relationship emotionally safe for each of you, and let’s face it, neither one of you is doing that particularly well.
Note to my readers: Check out my relationship astrology guest post over at Sasstrology, Neptune in the Seventh House: The Cinderella Complex.