Reader’s Astrology Question: Troubles With A Relationship Yod

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Hello!

– I am new in astrology, and looked up my own and my lovers composite and synastry chart. – even something that’s called Combin chart…in our composite chart is a pattern obvious, called Yod, – I have been searching for some profound explanations, but couldn’t find anything,- in fact I got instead completely confused. Then I found your comments and that seemed very experienced!
would you please have a look at it and tell me?

Saturn is the basis of this Yod pattern, and seems to be anyway the planet that troubles us most, – at least that is, what I see…
– we have a sort of beautiful/difficult connection, on and off for almost 8 years now, and I’d love to know, what you say to all this:

Woman born January 1st 1962 in Trier, Germany,
Man born August 9th 1975 in Stockholm, Sweden

I’d be happy for any light you could bring into my darkness… thanks a lot.

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Relationship Astrology: Schwarzenegger and Shriver Terminated?

Schwarzenegger and Shriver

Schwarzenegger and Shriver

(Astrology Explored) Unexpectedly Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver announced they are separating after 25 years of marriage. Is this a case of long-term marriage terminated? The California power couple seemed to have overcome differences in politics and care directions to sustain their long time marriage. Continue reading

Relationship Astrology: Composite or Davison Relationship Chart?

(Astrology Explored) Relationship astrology is a vast field with a multitude of techniques that seem to compete but actually compliment each other. One of these cases is the difference between the composite chart and the Davison relationship chart.

Schwarzenegger and Shriver Composite Chart

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The composite chart takes the middle point or more correctly the midpoints between each zodiac aspect for the charts of two people. Midpoints between planets in a birth chart are said to be sensitive points. When one of the planets in solar system passes over or transits the midpoint, both the areas of life represented by those two planets are affected. In a relationship which represents the joining of lives a third entity is created, that of the relationship itself. Taking the midpoints of two individual charts and putting them into it’s own zodiac wheel displays the energies of the relationship, what it is for and how the individuals in the relationship react.

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Relationship Astrology: Uranus & Establishing A Pair As A Couple

come-together-smallDisruptive Uranus is not thought of as a romantic planet, a planet of unity or a planet that has a part in establishing a relationship. Yet, an important task in establishing a happy marriage is to ”separate from one parents and establish a home.” Separation is a Uranus function as this planet presides over all manner of separations from teenage rebellion to divorces. Even older adults who have established themselves in the world, when they form a new love relationship are subject to the workings of Uranus.

Uranus at its core is about finding our individuality and our gifts stemming from it and using those for the betterment of the collective. Whether your collective is a playgroup or a workgroup hardly matters. If you are part of something that is more than one you are part of a collective.

In a relationship, whether we want to our not, our role changes and expands, bringing us more reassurances, more joys, but also more duties and responsibilities. It is Uranus that helps us dig deep into ourselves that helps us separate from our old notions of ourselves to satisfy the new demands of the relationship.

Jody and Steven Forrest in their book, ‘Skymates: The Astrology of Love, Sex and Intimacy” talk about the synastry of Uranus and how that planet in aspect to planets of the other partner in the relationship unlocks different aspects of each other. They say:

In intimacy, uranzation is a giddy feeling, not for the fainthearted. The rug is pulled out from under the uranized planet. Everything is questioned. Idols fall. Comforting certainties evaporate. A voice exhorts us, “Don’t follow leaders!”

So the fluttering of our hearts in the beginning stages of a relationship is not just about the influx of hormones to our systems, but the dawning and scary realization that everything we know is about to change. Uranus brings about the sense of peering over the brink of the precipice and taking the leap of faith that we will survive taking that step over edge and into the formation of a couple.

The composite chart, the chart of the midpoints of the planets of both parties is especially revealing in how Uranus acts in our relationships.

For instance, in the composite chart of Kate Capshaw and Steven Spielberg, we see Uranus in the twelfth house inconjunct the composite Sun, which is sextile, the composite Moon. The Sun, of course, represents Speilberg, while the Moon signifies Capshaw. Uranus sitting in the twelfth talks about deep inner issues, one of them being religion. The composite Sun shows stress to extremes about this issue. His own upbringing as Jewish was marked by his mother’s decision to raise the family in non-Jewish neighborhoods, leaving the young Spielberg the odd boy out in the neighborhood. His memories as growing up Jewish was more cultural than observant. “ . . . he remembers that when the family moved from New Jersey to Scottsdale, they stopped keeping kosher for no particular reason.”

Capshaw was raised Episcopalian, (some sources say Methodist) and she may have flirted with Scientology at one time.

[Kate] Capshaw converted to Judaism before the marriage [to Steven Spielberg], she said, “because I liked the religion’s emphasis on family, and I wanted my child to born a Jew. When I converted, Steven was delighted, but then all the people in his family who were supposed to fall to their knees in exultation didn’t say a word, because they so wanted me to know that it didn’t matter to them.”

The decision to do so proved prescient in a sense because Spielberg remembers:

When my son was born, it greatly affected me. I decided I wanted my kids raised Jewish, as I was. I have wonderful memories of my Judaism when I was a child–not a teenager, but a child,”

Thus this twelfth house composite Uranus helped this pair to establish themselves as a base of a family through a shared religion. It helped both to resolve inner conflicts over religion thus helping them to grow as individuals and as a couple.

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Other posts in this series:

Relationship Astrology: Planets Rule in Lasting Relationships

Relationship Astrology: Making Love Last, Your Relationship Style

Making Love Last: Mercury, Its Our Story and We’re Sticking To It

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Relationship Astrology: Planets Rule In Lasting Relationships

Love Birds

Love Birds

Judith Wallerstein in her 1995 book “The Good Marriage” proposed that there are nine sequential developmental tasks in building a lasting relationship. Looking over the list it was hard not to find a correlation between the planets and the developmental tasks at hand. There were some surprises in the list. Mercury for instance is not generally considered a “relationship” planet, and yet it has an important task in the formation of a lasting relationship. The first one on the list is a surprise as well. Let’s take a look at these tasks and the planet to which they correspond:

1.) Separating emotionally from the family of origin and investing in the marriage. Uranus is the planet that rules this function as it is the planet of forming a separate identity.

2.) Building togetherness while maintaining individual autonomy. This task is about supporting the values of the individuals within the relationship. Venus, the planet of love, is also about our value systems, so a well aspected Venus in the composite chart goes a long way towards showing how we value our partners values.

3.) Becoming a parent—Procreation is about expanding the family. Since Jupiter is all about expansion, it is a natural to rule this developemental task.

4.) Effectively managing the inevitable crises of life—Crisis for growth is a function of Pluto.

5.) Building within the relationship a sense of safety for the expression of differences and conflict—Saturn while traditionally considered the planet of restrictions and limitations is also about building structures for safely navigating the world.

6.) Maintaining a loving sexual relationship—Mars, and for obvious reasons.

7.) Applying humor in appropriate ways and keeping the relationship interesting-Intellectual stimulation is a key ingrediant for keeping things lively in a relationship. While Mercury is about the thinking processes, it has a more important function then we’ve recognized so far as explained in this post here.

8.) Creating an atmosphere conducive to nurturance, comforting an encouragement, and vulnerability—The Moon rules all these functions.

9.) Preserving the early relationship idealizations while simultaneously accepting the realities that presently exist.—As much as Neptune is about our illusions in life, it is also about our ideals. Our sense of ourselves is in part wrapped with certain illusions and ideals, and we would find it difficult to navigate the world without them.

Another post in this series is: Making Love Last, Part 1: Your Relationship Style

If you would like a question answered on these pages send your birth date, birth place and birth time along with your question to starrynightastro@aol.com. Sorry, time constraints prevent me from doing readings on anything other than a single question.

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Reader’s Astrology Question: Compatibility

astrologers-mailbox-copyThe querent only put this in her email “My and my partner’s compatibility”, nothing else. Yikes! Sometimes though we have only this little to go on. All one can do is read the symbols, so here it is.

My astrology teacher was fond of saying “We draw people to us for our own soul growth.” Your chart and that of your partner’s illustrates this point well.

I don’t think you’ve could have found a more perfect person to help you work on the rough edges of your soul. So many of your partner’s planets fall on top of yours that I am sure that for both of you the experience of your relationship is that it is hard to tell where one person ends and the other person begins. This is just the sort of experience that a Moon in Scorpio person, like your partner, craves.

To add another layer to this complex relationship, both of you are very psychic whether you realize it or not. For you this comes from your twelfth house Moon in the water sign Cancer. For your partner, it is the Scorpio Moon, of all things, in challenge aspect to Pluto. Both of you have an inner radar that spends a considerable amount of time scoping out the motives of the other person. The trouble is, for both of you, you are looking right into a mirror!

So what is the problem here? We’ve got two things going on. The first is your Mars, the planet of your survival instincts at the top of your chart. It is in the watery, emotional, chameleon-like sign of Pisces, and Mars hates to be in Pisces. People can’t figure out your motives, think you are up to something sneaky, (whether you are or not), and don’t think your actions matches your words. You don’t stand up for yourself well, and when you do take a stand, it is in such a confused, disjointed way, that other people hardly know what you are talking about. Oh, they know you are upset; you communicate your distress well enough, but the cause of it, that is another matter. It does not help that your moon is in the twelfth house, the place where we conceal ourselves. Since Cancer is about protection, you protect yourself by not sharing what you feel. If you are honest with yourself you will admit that you do not communicate your emotional needs well.

Your partner’s issues are about control. With that Moon square Pluto, this is a person who needs to control the emotional content of the relationship. In extreme cases, it is about control of another person and this is where this can get difficult. Understand that for the Moon in Scorpio person, the world is not the solid and sure place that other people perceive it be. They have a sense that reality is much different than their perceptions, and they are always reaching to figure out that reality. If your partner is constantly questions your motives and your actions, it is because of the interaction of the dynamics of your Mars and your partner’s Moon. In other words, your partner probes and questions and you withdraw, making your partner probe and question some more.

There is so much more to this, that a few paragraphs in a column hardly do it justice. My advice to you is this: get thee both to a couple’s counselor. Both of you need to learn how to make this relationship emotionally safe for each of you, and let’s face it, neither one of you is doing that particularly well.

Note to my readers: Check out my relationship astrology guest post over at Sasstrology, Neptune in the Seventh House: The Cinderella Complex.

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